Tantra is about creating a connection to yourself, a deep intimacy with the different aspects of your being and how these relate to the world. When this is experienced you can share it with others.
Polarity is good
The interplay between the masculine and feminine is actually a good thing and gives the passion to life. By skilfully playing out these poles we can energise our practise with enough juice to transcend duality (our own limited point of view). If the polarity is neutralised then its like living with a dead battery. This is relevant as there are many spiritual systems which have actually encouraged us to dampen down our natural polarity, instincts and desires in order to find peace. It is very peaceful being a corpse! These polarities are sometimes represented by Deity’s such as and Shiva and the Shakti.
Tantra is inclusive
It uses all at it’s disposal in order for us to deepen into our nature. The key word is acceptance, in accepting yourself, your desires and your quirks there is an opportunity to deepen. Unlike other systems which attempt to shape you through control and effort, Tantra allows you to indulge your desires but with awareness so they deepen beyond surface wants and needs towards the ultimate desire for love and awareness.
Not necessarily, some of the techniques can be quite physical, or involve facing fears and becoming more present. It’s not always easy, but they all point toward you as your natural self, there is a stripping away of false shells of being we have surrounded ourselves with rather than needing to add something to become “enlightened”. Sometimes this can leave us a little shaky accustomed to the comfort of our beliefs, ultimately it leads to a deeply satisfying, absorbed and rested in the glory of it all
But let’s face it, it’s really all about sex isn’t it? – Because of the social repression of sex in most culture, the popular view of tantra is it all about sex e.g “I heard sting did it, and it lasted 8 hours…”.
The act of lovemaking in all its facets (quiet breathing and passionate ravishing of the other) is included in tantra but it is certainly not limited to that. In the classic text the Vigayn Birav Tantra there are 112 methods for awakening, and only 6 of these are directly related to the sexual act.
However, life is deeply sexual, the whole energy of life can be seen as sexual energy, of creativity, as the interplay of consciouness and love, masculine and feminine energies. When we expand the limited concepts of sexuality to include all of the interplay of life then we can state that tantra is about awakening through sexuality.